Amazingly, they found that simply having a phone nearby, without even checking it, can be detrimental to our attempts at interpersonal connection.…Przybylski and Weinstein asked pairs of strangers to discuss a moderately intimate topic…Some pairs engaged in their discussion with a nondescript cell phone nearby, whereas other pairs conversed while a pocket notebook lay nearby…The pairs who chatted in the presence of the cell phone reported lower relationship quality and less closeness.…[In a follow-up study] the presence of the cell phone had no effect on relationship quality, trust, and empathy, but only if the pair discussed the casual topic.
Then I realized there was a much more useful way of thinking about the role of phone communication.
It's like saying, "I'm just hoping someone more interesting and/or important tries to reach me." Keep it in your bag and check it during a trip to the ladies' room.
Your guy might not come right out and say it, but he'll be tickled pink that you're focused on him.
A 2014 Nielsen survey found that the average American spends 11 hours on social media, and more than half of that time is spent looking at a smartphone or tablet. If you are expecting a call that can’t be postponed, alert your date ahead of time and excuse yourself when the call comes in if discussing private matters or confidential information. Never put your phone (or your handbag, keys, sunglasses or anything you can’t eat) directly on the table.
Don’t let bad habits get in the way of your love life. When you’re on a date, especially a first date, the person you are with should always take precedence over calls you want to make or receive. If you do take the call at the dinner table, keep it as brief as possible and avoid “cell yell.” Use your regular conversational tone when speaking on your phone. Keep your phone concealed and remember to silence the ringtone. It’s permissible to pull out your phone three times on a date.