For me, and many other women like me, it all begins with a number. Before agreeing to a set-up, as a follow-up response or even playing a flirtatious game, I always find the answer to the question, “So, how old are you? And if you don't know who the Seavers are from “Growing Pains,” then you don't stand a chance.
As much of our generation is delaying activities like marriage and procreating, we are, in effect, also prolonging its adolescence.
If you do be ready for a major difference in maturity levels. But whether it works out or not, you can gain valuable experience from every relationship. Don't worry that small-minded busybodies will think it's creepy, it's none of their business anyway.
I am 30 years old and female and I dated a 20 year old guy (at my college guys my age are slim pickings and/or have major issues in life) and there was a world of difference. Originally posted by Hamadryad I don't know if that's encouragement or a cautionary tale. I say: "Go for it." Life is hard enough without these ridiculous arbitrary restrictions on love.
Without those weightier responsibilities, Millennial boys (or, for the most part, the ones I've encountered) are living this suspended fratboy mentality.
Thus, we ladies have looked to older men to fulfill those more grown-up needs.
Plus, the older guy has to learn how to handle the elevated risk of being labeled a “lech” or “pervy”.
You can date someone as young as half your age plus seven years? It's no wonder that so many women feel that men their own age are too immature.I was having breakfast the other day with a friend who was giving dating advice to his son.For purposes of his anonymity, I am going to call just call him "Son." My friend said, "Son, you're 18 years old, so I am going to tell you how you date.If the guy she likes is significantly older, like ten years or more, she’ll be that much more on guard for beta bahavior.An older guy who is needy is a bigger loser than a younger guy who is needy, because the younger guy at least has the excuse of inexperience.