For instance, most men may not have the option to bed Jessica Alba, but that hasn’t stopped them from wanting to.
However, there is another part to this equation that is not often considered.
(Only they can change it.) People can be unavailable for both healthy and unhealthy reasons.
They may have suffered through a troubled childhood experience that has wounded them, or they now have higher priorities such as their career or taking care of a sick parent.
He is ever-elusive and ever-intriguing, and possesses a mysteriously irresistible appeal. The Unavailable Man comes in different packaging, depending on the nature of his pursuer. At 24 I overlooked multiple confessions from a man who lied about his age, his job, and his marital status.
While the specific reasons vary from woman to woman, the tendency to unconsciously and compulsively repeat relationship patterns is nothing new. When a person engages in behaviors of repetition compulsion, she is unconsciously attempting to revise and resolve a dysfunctional aspect of a primary, or central, past relationship.
Name: Jimmy Jacob Website: How To Win Over The On And Off Elusive Man If you’re reading this article right now, then you most likely have had your heart broken by an elusive man who has toyed with your affections. I carelessly popped in and out of a woman’s life that I cared about all because I couldn’t get over my past, my ego and the fact that I wasn’t ready to settle down yet.
From the first date you knew this man was an enigma that you would never be able to figure out and although you saw red flags right from the start, you ignored his border-line superiority complex, his apparent commitment issues and his inability to factor you into his high priority list after the first kiss (or orgasm) clouded your judgment. After five years of breaking her heart, I finally came to the realization that she was the one I am supposed to be with and maybe if we had avoided certain fights and pitfalls, then I probably would have realized that fact years ago. I think a huge reason why women are attracted to elusive men is because they are addicted to the character of Mr. Big made Carrie miserable with his inability to commit, the more she was ultimately convinced he was “The One.” Trust me, I have met many women who tried to emulate the show and they even hooked up with “Aidans” just to feel like they can relate to the show.
Playing hard to get is a technique that has been used by women for centuries.
The idea is to simply urge a man to want what he doesn’t (and possibly never will) have.